10 Ways To Know If They’re a Tester or an Investor

Circling back to the concept of 8 types of women, here are some questions to ask to determine if she’s a tester (moves fast) or an investor (moves slow):

1. About Past Relationships: “How have your past relationships typically started?”
   Purpose: Reveals passive (investor) or active (tester) roles in initiating relationships.
2. About Decision Making: “When you like someone, do you wait for them to make the first move?”
   Purpose: Testers might initiate, while investors might wait.
3. On Handling Conflicts: “In a disagreement, do you prefer to talk it out or wait for the other person to apologize?”
   Purpose: Testers might confront, whereas investors might be patient.
4. Preference in Activities: “Do you enjoy planning outings or prefer someone else to take the lead?”
   Purpose: Investors might prefer the other person to plan.
5. Views on Romance: “Do you believe in love at first sight, or do you think love grows over time?”
   Purpose: Differentiates between a tester’s impulsiveness and an investor’s gradual development.
6. Social Dynamics: “In a group, are you more of a listener or the one leading the conversation?”
   Purpose: Testers might lead, while investors might observe.
7. About Taking Risks: “Would you consider yourself a risk-taker, especially in relationships?”
   Purpose: Testers might take more risks.
8. On Expressing Feelings: “How quickly do you open up to someone you’re interested in?”
   Purpose: Investors might take longer to open up.
9. Regarding Expectations: “What do you expect from a person you’re dating in the early stages?”
   Purpose: Reveals expectations of proactive gestures (tester) or a laid-back approach (investor).
10. About Personal Growth: “In relationships, do you focus more on what you can offer or what you can get from the other person?”
    Purpose: Investors might focus on giving, testers on receiving.